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Let's not beat about the bush: it's not that easy to understand how our subconscious mind works and we often don't realize how powerful our subconscious mind really is. It's also common knowledge that we are the biggest obstacle to our own success. But what does this really mean? We may get angry and frustrated when things don't work out well for us and tend to start blaming people or circumstances or just believe it's a result of our "bad luck". Or we may even say it was just "good luck" when things work out well for us. But neither of these is really "the truth."
But what many people fail to realize is that they are actually creating their own circumstances through subconscious self-sabotage (so in other words they have no idea they're actually creating their own problems).
To be able to relieve the problem of self-sabotage it's important to understand the role that fear and emotions play - especially when they are related to our actions. Finding the exact cause of any destructive behavior is the answer to being able to prevent it in the future. So how do you do this? Simple, learn from your failures and don't make the same mistakes twice. Why? Well if you can't identify the cause of the problem then how can you prevent it? But what exactly happens when we self-sabotage?
When we have something we want to accomplish, say losing weight, it's very important to want to achieve that goal both on an intellectual level and on a subconscious level. You see, when overweight people constantly fail to lose weight, or just fail to keep it off; it may be for a number of reasons. It may be because they are scared of the outcome on some subconscious level. They might feel like their fat is protecting them from the outside world; protecting them from reality. It may provide a shell for their insecurity. And suddenly, losing weight isn't a happy ever after solution anymore: it's a threat. So even though might say they want to lose weight, and firmly believe that on an intellectual level, they're subconsciously sabotaging their diets or workout plans rationalizing it by promising themselves that they'll try harder tomorrow.
However, people who self-sabotage may also think that they're simply not worthy of achieving their goals. They may fear what people would think of them if they were to accomplish the goals they've set. Therefore, the subconscious self-sabotage is ensuring a failed endeavor. When one thinks like this, they have essentially tricked themselves into believing they know what they want to accomplish. But if there is just the slightest fear or doubt about their decision to achieve their goals they will always find a way to ensure they won't succeed. Not ideal is it!? Do you feel like you're stuck? That no matter how much effort you put into it, you simply can't seem to succeed with your goals? Perhaps the description above fits you, and you may be a saboteur yourself.
Luckily, self-sabotage can be overcome by anyone. True, it's not always as simple as it sounds, as it requires one to recognize what's holding you back which, in turn, requires one to develop their conscious awareness. But, once you're aware of what you feel and what you do, the task of overcoming self-sabotage will be much easier.
Have you been struggling with success? Do you feel like you can't just move forward with your goals or that things or people aren't moving with you? If you do, then take a step back and think. Evaluate what your goals are and what they mean to you. What were the efforts you made that are taking you towards your ambitions? And what actions are taking you away from your ambitions? Is anything or anyone hindering your success? Can you make better decisions in the future? What can you do to remove obstacles and improve your chances of success?
When we finally understand that we are in control of our own success, we will be set free from all limitations! By developing clarity and insight about the outcomes we want to create, and the awareness for potential setbacks, we can stop the self-sabotage and focus our energies on working toward new goals that we will fully support in every way. We will then look back one day and see that instead of being our own worst saboteur, we have become our best supporter.
But what many people fail to realize is that they are actually creating their own circumstances through subconscious self-sabotage (so in other words they have no idea they're actually creating their own problems).
To be able to relieve the problem of self-sabotage it's important to understand the role that fear and emotions play - especially when they are related to our actions. Finding the exact cause of any destructive behavior is the answer to being able to prevent it in the future. So how do you do this? Simple, learn from your failures and don't make the same mistakes twice. Why? Well if you can't identify the cause of the problem then how can you prevent it? But what exactly happens when we self-sabotage?
When we have something we want to accomplish, say losing weight, it's very important to want to achieve that goal both on an intellectual level and on a subconscious level. You see, when overweight people constantly fail to lose weight, or just fail to keep it off; it may be for a number of reasons. It may be because they are scared of the outcome on some subconscious level. They might feel like their fat is protecting them from the outside world; protecting them from reality. It may provide a shell for their insecurity. And suddenly, losing weight isn't a happy ever after solution anymore: it's a threat. So even though might say they want to lose weight, and firmly believe that on an intellectual level, they're subconsciously sabotaging their diets or workout plans rationalizing it by promising themselves that they'll try harder tomorrow.
However, people who self-sabotage may also think that they're simply not worthy of achieving their goals. They may fear what people would think of them if they were to accomplish the goals they've set. Therefore, the subconscious self-sabotage is ensuring a failed endeavor. When one thinks like this, they have essentially tricked themselves into believing they know what they want to accomplish. But if there is just the slightest fear or doubt about their decision to achieve their goals they will always find a way to ensure they won't succeed. Not ideal is it!? Do you feel like you're stuck? That no matter how much effort you put into it, you simply can't seem to succeed with your goals? Perhaps the description above fits you, and you may be a saboteur yourself.
Luckily, self-sabotage can be overcome by anyone. True, it's not always as simple as it sounds, as it requires one to recognize what's holding you back which, in turn, requires one to develop their conscious awareness. But, once you're aware of what you feel and what you do, the task of overcoming self-sabotage will be much easier.
Have you been struggling with success? Do you feel like you can't just move forward with your goals or that things or people aren't moving with you? If you do, then take a step back and think. Evaluate what your goals are and what they mean to you. What were the efforts you made that are taking you towards your ambitions? And what actions are taking you away from your ambitions? Is anything or anyone hindering your success? Can you make better decisions in the future? What can you do to remove obstacles and improve your chances of success?
When we finally understand that we are in control of our own success, we will be set free from all limitations! By developing clarity and insight about the outcomes we want to create, and the awareness for potential setbacks, we can stop the self-sabotage and focus our energies on working toward new goals that we will fully support in every way. We will then look back one day and see that instead of being our own worst saboteur, we have become our best supporter.
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