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Getting the attention of a guy that you're interested in shouldn't require a skillfully laid out plan. Men don't need to be a mystery to you and getting the attention of any man you desire requires only a few key pieces of knowledge. It doesn't matter how handsome he is, how popular he is or even if you think that there is no way that he will be attracted to you. Once you understand how men process attraction and what will draw him in, it won't even matter if there is a model hitting on him. You will be the one talking to him at the end of the night.
While it is unfortunate that men and women don't think alike, if it was simple then there would be no challenge. Many women make the mistake of trying to give a man the same signals or treatment that they desire. Men are simply wired differently and they feel attraction on a different level. Becoming friends might be easy but if you are hoping to ignite romantic feelings that lead to a relationship then you must understand how to make him look at you differently and feel differently around you than he does with any other woman.
As you know, most men are visually stimulated. They are attracted to shiny things like a cat is attracted to tinsel or a laser pointer. This is why men enjoy looking at pictures of fancy sports cars they will judge a coffee maker by how cool it looks. It's the same with women. Their first attraction will be visual. If you can get his attention visually then you will go from there. Keep in mind that you don't have to be thin or beautiful. You don't have to have the best figure or the prettiest face in the room. It will often be one single feature that a man is initially attracted to so all you have to do is have one feature that he will find attractive. Stop worrying about your overall appearance when it is one feature that is all that is necessary to attract his attention.
You don't have to be perfect or be the most beautiful girl in the room. All that is required is that you have one feature that is attractive. Perhaps someone has told you that you have pretty eyes or beautiful hair. Maybe you have shapely legs or a pleasant smile. You can accentuate these features and hide any features that you feel are unattractive. For instance, if you have nice hair but you have crooked teeth, braid your hair and avoid giving a toothy smile. If you have nice legs yet you don't like your hair, a dress or skirt that shows off your legs and perhaps a fashionable hat to hide your hair while adding some flair might be in order. Remember, you only have to have one or two attractive features that will get his attention long enough for you to break the ice and make him think about you.
Flirting is huge with men. They don't know it but they are attracted to women that flirt with them. Coming right out and telling a guy that you're interested in him will make him run for the nearest fire exit yet flirting with him will make him want to get to know you better. You might say that no self respecting woman flirts with guys these days. You might feel awkward or ridiculous flirting with a man like a high school cheerleader but it works. While every other girl in the room is too embarrassed to flirt with that guy, your feminine charm will outshine those wall flowers.
Flirting involves everything that you have been led to believe it does. Batting your eyes at him, winking at him, laughing at his jokes, leaning in close when you talk to him and making eye contact are all methods of flirting that actually work. Touching him when you talk to him or when he's close is another great way to make a connection with him and make him feel something for you without being too forward. Flirting really is a lost art but you don't have to be skilled to flip your hair or look at him longingly through your tousled hair. Even smiling is a form of flirting but you have to know how to do it right.
Getting inside his mind and creating a deep connection with him is easily accomplished by talking with him. Engaging him in deep conversation where you both show that you're interested in him as a human being but also drawing him out to expose himself will be your goal. He may have a lot of people in his life that he considers close friends. He might even have women in his life that he dates from time to time but you're going to connect with him on a level that most people never attempt to connect with him on. By asking a certain type of question or line of questions that probe deep down into who he actually is, he will feel like he has known you all his life.
While we all tend to ask the same questions when we meet someone new such as what they do for a living, where they grew up or what they enjoy doing in their spare time, these are boring questions but they don't need to be. As he begins to give you the same answers that we all give to such questions, dig deeper into who he actually is. Ask him if he always wanted the career that he is in now or if he had other plans when he was younger. This will lead to more personal answer as you uncover who he actually is as a person. You'll learn about his dreams and goals for his life as well as his likes and dislikes. Sharing such personal information will lead him to feel something special for you. He will feel that you are different and you will learn more about him than most of his closest friends know simply because you were brave enough to ask personal questions. This bond is both real as well as emotional. When we share details about our life and our dreams, we become connected to that other person in a very real way. This is the path to bonding and intimacy.
For men, attraction is so much more than simply what meets the eye. No matter if you consider yourself plain looking or you fear that you're not intelligent enough to challenge the man you're interested in, you can attract him. It doesn't matter how handsome he is or how many other girls are vying for his attention. If you are brave and you understand what we have talked about here, you stand a very good chance of attracting him, connecting with him and building the kind of relationship you dream of with the guy of your dreams.
While it is unfortunate that men and women don't think alike, if it was simple then there would be no challenge. Many women make the mistake of trying to give a man the same signals or treatment that they desire. Men are simply wired differently and they feel attraction on a different level. Becoming friends might be easy but if you are hoping to ignite romantic feelings that lead to a relationship then you must understand how to make him look at you differently and feel differently around you than he does with any other woman.
As you know, most men are visually stimulated. They are attracted to shiny things like a cat is attracted to tinsel or a laser pointer. This is why men enjoy looking at pictures of fancy sports cars they will judge a coffee maker by how cool it looks. It's the same with women. Their first attraction will be visual. If you can get his attention visually then you will go from there. Keep in mind that you don't have to be thin or beautiful. You don't have to have the best figure or the prettiest face in the room. It will often be one single feature that a man is initially attracted to so all you have to do is have one feature that he will find attractive. Stop worrying about your overall appearance when it is one feature that is all that is necessary to attract his attention.
You don't have to be perfect or be the most beautiful girl in the room. All that is required is that you have one feature that is attractive. Perhaps someone has told you that you have pretty eyes or beautiful hair. Maybe you have shapely legs or a pleasant smile. You can accentuate these features and hide any features that you feel are unattractive. For instance, if you have nice hair but you have crooked teeth, braid your hair and avoid giving a toothy smile. If you have nice legs yet you don't like your hair, a dress or skirt that shows off your legs and perhaps a fashionable hat to hide your hair while adding some flair might be in order. Remember, you only have to have one or two attractive features that will get his attention long enough for you to break the ice and make him think about you.
Flirting is huge with men. They don't know it but they are attracted to women that flirt with them. Coming right out and telling a guy that you're interested in him will make him run for the nearest fire exit yet flirting with him will make him want to get to know you better. You might say that no self respecting woman flirts with guys these days. You might feel awkward or ridiculous flirting with a man like a high school cheerleader but it works. While every other girl in the room is too embarrassed to flirt with that guy, your feminine charm will outshine those wall flowers.
Flirting involves everything that you have been led to believe it does. Batting your eyes at him, winking at him, laughing at his jokes, leaning in close when you talk to him and making eye contact are all methods of flirting that actually work. Touching him when you talk to him or when he's close is another great way to make a connection with him and make him feel something for you without being too forward. Flirting really is a lost art but you don't have to be skilled to flip your hair or look at him longingly through your tousled hair. Even smiling is a form of flirting but you have to know how to do it right.
Getting inside his mind and creating a deep connection with him is easily accomplished by talking with him. Engaging him in deep conversation where you both show that you're interested in him as a human being but also drawing him out to expose himself will be your goal. He may have a lot of people in his life that he considers close friends. He might even have women in his life that he dates from time to time but you're going to connect with him on a level that most people never attempt to connect with him on. By asking a certain type of question or line of questions that probe deep down into who he actually is, he will feel like he has known you all his life.
While we all tend to ask the same questions when we meet someone new such as what they do for a living, where they grew up or what they enjoy doing in their spare time, these are boring questions but they don't need to be. As he begins to give you the same answers that we all give to such questions, dig deeper into who he actually is. Ask him if he always wanted the career that he is in now or if he had other plans when he was younger. This will lead to more personal answer as you uncover who he actually is as a person. You'll learn about his dreams and goals for his life as well as his likes and dislikes. Sharing such personal information will lead him to feel something special for you. He will feel that you are different and you will learn more about him than most of his closest friends know simply because you were brave enough to ask personal questions. This bond is both real as well as emotional. When we share details about our life and our dreams, we become connected to that other person in a very real way. This is the path to bonding and intimacy.
For men, attraction is so much more than simply what meets the eye. No matter if you consider yourself plain looking or you fear that you're not intelligent enough to challenge the man you're interested in, you can attract him. It doesn't matter how handsome he is or how many other girls are vying for his attention. If you are brave and you understand what we have talked about here, you stand a very good chance of attracting him, connecting with him and building the kind of relationship you dream of with the guy of your dreams.
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