Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Positive Thoughts And How To Get Past Negativity

By Marina Babenko


You might already know that thinking positive and being optimistic is important for being happy and bringing good things into your life. For many of us, it's a daily struggle to be optimistic and believe that our dreams can come true. Feeling trapped or depressed about our life and circumstances can lead to depression, sadness and the thought that things will never change. Eliminating these negative thought patterns and trying to be optimistic is often very difficult but there are a few things that you can do to get moving in the right direction and become happier in the process.

When our life is in turmoil, often mornings are the most difficult time. You're confronted with worry and fear before you even get out of bed. It's another day filled with the same problem that you had when you went to sleep and chances are you didn't sleep very well, to begin with. You dread the day with the job that you despise or the relationship that you wish would change or the impending phone calls from bill collectors. No matter what the situation might be, it greets you as your reality seeps in and you're defeated before the day even begins.

Do yourself a favor and put those negative thoughts on the back burner. Tell yourself that you're not going to focus on the negative things in your life in the morning. Give yourself a break and tell yourself that you will think about the problems in your life later. Be gentle with yourself and allow yourself some time to wake up. The problems will still be there later on during the day and worrying about a solution isn't going to help you become motivated first thing in the morning. Tell yourself that you're not going to even think about the problem until you have had a cup of coffee.

Recognizing that you're thinking negatively or that you're focusing on a problem is another step in the right direction. Often we become so overwhelmed with worry that we are unable to see a solution to the problems that we are confronted with. This worry takes up a lot of energy and time that could be better used to focus on the solution once it arrives. A clear mind is more receptive to solutions while a mind full of worry is only focusing on the problem.

Any time you can recognize that you're wasting time worrying about the problems in your life, stop. Just stop and tell yourself that worry never solved anything. While some worry can motivate us to do something about a dangerous situation, too much worry can cause us to freeze up. This is our fight or flight instinct. Be sure that you're not allowing your worry or focus on a bad situation to cause you to freeze in your tracks like a deer in a car's headlights and if this is the case tell yourself that you're going to use this instinct to propel you towards finding a solution instead. Visualize what you want to happen or your life without the problem in it. Look to the future and feel what it will be like to be free of the problem and exactly how you want your life to be.

Being a little stubborn with yourself and with these negative emotions is very important. While you might wish that it was as simple as flipping a switch or turning a key, these negative thoughts will probably try to return rather quickly. This has been your habit for a while and how you have been living. Being persistent and believing in yourself and your ability to change your thoughts and change your life is key. Remember that these negative thoughts are not helping you and they're preventing you from making the changes necessary for your own happiness can help. Try not to become angry with yourself but be gentle with yourself and love yourself. Respect these thoughts but understand their use and master your emotions for your overall well-being.

Visualizing and dreaming are both tools that you can use to free your mind from worry and fear. Feeling as if you are actually living a different life without these problems will begin the process of allowing your mind to find a solution to any problem that you might be having. Every great thing in this world began with a thought. Let your mind roam free and give yourself permission to dream about the things that will make you happy. Is it a loving relationship, a life free of debt or a career that brings you joy and fulfillment? No matter what it is, you deserve to be happy.




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